Sunday, September 21, 2014

New Beginnings

Wow, I turned around, and it's almost the end of September! How the heck did that happen?  Clearly I've ignored my little space on the interwebs, and I'm not going to promise that I'm going to start posting again frequently, because I just can't make that kind of commitment to you right now, but I will at least give you a little update on our lives.

This summer wasn't one of the most beautiful summers, as far as weather goes here in Ontario, and after the horrible winter we had last year you would really think that mother nature would have given us some kind of reward for making it through, but no, it didn't turn out like that.  We however managed to pack a lot of excitement into these past few months, weather be damned.  I probably didn't loll around our patio by the pool as much as I have in recent years, but perhaps that's a good thing.

Limefreckle Jr. and I spent a fair amount of time up in Northern Ontario where my parents live, more time than we have in quite a while (3 weeks in one stretch, and then up again to a nearby island for a couple of days) and it was lovely.  Limefreckle Jr. always seems to show such amazing growth every summer, and this year again he continued to amaze us.  He decided that he wanted to sleep out in the guest house, and not in the house with us, which surprised me, I wasn't sure he was ready to be "on his own".  After heading out there with his ipad to ensure that the wifi could be reached (it could) he moved out of his room inside that he had deemed "too small" for his needs, and into his own spacious apartment. He did show up in my bedroom the very first night at 2AM, and ask for my company.  I went out and slept in the extra bed in the room until 6AM, when I headed back.  I think he just needed that first night with someone else and then that was it, we barely saw him again.  I think he really enjoyed the independence, and quite frankly, so did I.  When he was a toddler, my trips up north were more a "change of scenery" than a vacation, as I spent most of my days chasing him up and down the beach.....like here....


he never seemed to want to just stay put in front of our house, the neighbour's beaches were always so much more interesting.  And while they still are, he ventures out there on his own now, and doesn't need me!  Now I'm living the dream, asleep on the beach or in the hammock.  I do miss this little guy, but not constantly having to run after him!  Now my view is a lot more like this....



and this.....

or this.....



eating a lot of these..... salad plates, although I have no idea why we call them that, as there is no salad to be found....


Whichever beach we found ourselves on, there always seemed to be kids running around like this....


Limefreckle Jr. likes to travel with his costumes, one never knows when the perfect movie making opportunity might arise.  He literally views life through a camera lens, in his mind when he visits a new place, he's scouting locations, and he's found some great ones this summer.  Even though the weather wasn't the best, we made due, and had an incredible time.

But now September is upon us, and it's back to school...and this is where the new beginnings kick in.  Limefreckle Jr. has moved on from his school of the past 6 years, and is attending a much bigger school.  It's been a very big transition for ALL of us......almost worse for me than him I think!  I wasn't expecting this change to come until next year, but the heart wants what the heart wants, and Jr. decided that he had outgrown his previous setting, and was looking for new challenges.  Who am I to argue with that?  He's doing pretty well at his new school, has made new friends, which I knew wouldn't be too hard for him, he is one of the most social children I've ever met on the spectrum.  The work is a bit harder, and he has homework, which didn't happen in the past, so we've been working through those changes.  He has to wear a UNIFORM, and not just a golf shirt, but a BUTTONED DRESS SHIRT, which I didn't think he would ever put on......and at one point in the summer I thought he would change his mind, but no, he pushed past it, and decided he could do it.  Coming from a kid that has lived in sweats and t shirts for the past few years, this is probably the biggest change of all so far!  He does continually complain about it, but one day my Mom pointed out that he was putting it on and going to school, so I've learned to try to just ignore the complaints and repeat my mantra "this too shall pass...."  Funnily enough, he doesn't MENTION the uniform to any of his teachers at school, so I think that it will be something that he will stop talking about eventually.

The staff at the school has been wonderful, and helped ease my anxiety about the whole transition.  I feel like I had been in a very happy place these past 6 years, and while I knew he needed to move on, I was hesitant to leave the amazing staff that we had.  My first experiences with education for Jr. were not very good.....nursery school, IBI therapy, and even the public school system were all very hard on both of us.  This last school "got it" and more importantly "got him" and I wasn't sure we would find another place like it.  So far, fingers crossed, these people at his new school "get him" too, and I think we have found a place that we can be happy with for the next few years.  Wish us luck, actually, wish ME luck.....I'm working hard at not letting past experiences define our future, and at letting go of things I can't control.  It's time for the baby bird to leave the nest and it's time for Mom to realize that things will all work out as they are meant to......and that changes can't happen without being a bit uncomfortable!


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