|this picture has made the rounds online. It always reminds me of my son and the early days. I wonder how the little girl in this picture feels about her picture floating around there in cyberspace!|
Of course, his meltdowns are not as severe as they used to be. He used to get very aggressive, often towards other children. That is hard, when your child hits another, it's very hard to have to face that mother, and hope that she will understand. and not judge you, or your son. Most people I've encountered have been wonderful, very understanding. Occasionally I've run into mothers that aren't so wonderful, but that's life, you're going to encounter those women no matter what. You learn to navigate, and find people who understand.
Limefreckle Jr. also can become very aggressive towards me. For awhile it was constant, so much so that when I spoke to his doctor about it, we discovered it was probably his ADHD medication that was causing it. So we took him off of everything, and he got MARKEDLY better. It was such a relief.
But he still has episodes where he gets upset. Not towards other children anymore, thank goodness, but towards me. I've met many moms of kids on the spectrum that tell me their son does the same thing. I guess it's their comfort zone, I'm not sure. Part of me is relieved to know that he understands that he can't do that to just anyone. Now I'm just waiting for the day the he realizes he can't do it to me anymore either.
One thing that helps me is to remember that there is a difference between a toddler tantrum and an Autistic meltdown. One of the hardest parts of his public meltdowns was always the judgement and observations from strangers. Why do we as Moms worry so much about what other Mom's think? Furthermore, why do moms not support each other more, instead of judging? IT TAKES A VILLAGE PEOPLE....
I wish I had read this when Limefreckle Jr. was younger, it really puts it into perspective for me. I've had so many instances in my life when my son was misbehaving, where I was made to feel that he was a bad child, I was a bad mother, and really, we are all (Limefreckle Jr. included) just DOING OUR BEST! It's hard to raise a child, let alone one with special needs, so if you are in the throws of the "difficult" behaviours, please remember that you are not alone, many have been there before you. Work on helping your child cope with those stressors that are causing him trouble and try not to worry about the judgements (perceived or otherwise) sent your way by other people. Have confidence that you are doing the best that you can.
If you haven't entered already, I'm hosting a giveaway this week, a book by Big Mama, Melanie Shankle, one of my favourite bloggers, called "Sparkly Green Earrings". And of course, being a jewelry designer, I couldn't pass up the chance to make a pair of "sparkly green earrings" to do with it! You can enter the contest here, it closes Thursday March 7th, at midnight.
And today I'm linking up with these blog hops. Go visit everyone!